I still can't believe I allowed me to hit me with his car

I was utterly taken aback when he hit me with his car. It was a shocking and unexpected act of violence, especially considering that this was his first instance of domestic violence towards me. The sheer audacity and disregard for my safety left me stunned and bewildered. At that moment, I didn't even realize the gravity of the situation, as I was completely unaware that this would be the start of a pattern of abuse. Little did I know, this incident would mark the beginning of a painful journey filled with fear and uncertainty.

Then I started noticing an increase in his drinking. At first, I had made a joke out of it saying that his love of Colt 45 was reminiscent of Billy Dee William and his role in Mahogany co-starring Diana Ross. I would start singing the song “Do you know where you’re going to?… when I noticed his belligerence surfacing. I made his excessive drinking into a joke instead of a red flag.

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Recognizing domestic violence is a crucial step in addressing and preventing it. It is important to be aware of the red flags that indicate a potentially abusive relationship. One of the biggest mistakes individuals can make is ignoring these warning signs, such as dismissing problematic behaviors like alcoholism.

In the case of domestic violence, it's not uncommon for individuals to overlook certain behaviors or justify them as isolated incidents. However, failing to recognize that alcoholism can be a significant red flag can have serious consequences.

Alcoholism can often contribute to an increase in aggression and violent behavior, making it an important factor to consider when assessing the potential for domestic violence. By acknowledging and addressing this issue early on, individuals can take proactive steps toward protecting themselves and seeking help.

It is essential to understand that recognizing red flags and taking action is crucial in preventing further harm. By being vigilant and acknowledging the warning signs, we can play a vital role in breaking the cycle of domestic violence.

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